12 Surprising Truths About Guys and Sex

Forty-five percent of guys in this sample haven’t had sex yet and 40 percent are not looking for casual sex or hook-ups. In fact, many are not in a rush and may actually regret moving too fast. Of those surveyed, 45 percent have had sex but regretted it for one reason or another afterward. Almost half would prefer to wait to have sex until later in life, such as marriage.

Two-thirds (66 percent) of those surveyed agree that they, personally, could be happy in a sex-free relationship. Their future is more important to them: 58 percent would rather get into their dream college than have sex with their dream person at this time.

Think about how often sex is depicted in movies, TV shows, and music. It has an impact, and 78 percent feel like there is way too much pressure from society to have sex.

That pressure reaches friend groups too. Many say they lie about their sexual experience to appear cooler or protect their reputation: 60 percent admit they’ve fibbed about something related to sex and 30 percent have lied about how far they’ve gone sexually. In fact, 56 percent said that they often feel relieved when a partner wants to wait to have sex.

Yes, first-time sex is a big deal for guys, too. Fifty-three percent say they won’t have sex with someone unless they really love them. Eighty percent of virgins said that their first time will be important to them — an opinion that 67 percent of non-virgins say was their experience.

An overwhelming percentage (95 percent) said they would rather have sex with someone they love than a random person, while 75 percent would choose to wait to lose their virginity to someone they love rather than have sex with someone random as soon as possible.

Yup, 49 percent are looking for a serious relationship and 66 percent would rather have a partner with no sex than have sex but no partner.

It’s true, 35 percent worry that sex will change their relationship. While sex can be great, it might make someone stay in a relationship for the wrong reasons… 22 percent* said that they stayed in a relationship strictly for the sex.

…On the other hand, sex can complicate things. Twenty-eight percent* said having sex with someone for the first time had a negative effect on the relationship: Twenty-four percent* lost interest in the person and 9 percent* broke up with their partners after.

But, 74 percent said having sex with someone won’t make them stay in a relationship they no longer are happy in.

*the percentage of guys who have had sex

Eighty-three percent gladly wear a condom when asked, while 66 percent would happily research different forms of birth control with their partner when asked. Even when it comes to pregnancy… 93 percent would claim equal responsibility if their partner got pregnant and 83 percent say both partners are equally responsible to get birth control or protection to prevent pregnancy.

Many use protection, 87 percent say for their own desire to prevent pregnancy and 80 percent to prevent sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Some admit to being a little befuddled when it comes to sex. Seventy percent don’t know if they should be the one to initiate sex, and 70 percent are confused about what a partner expects from them after sex. Sixty-three percent are confused about what’s pleasurable for a girl and 48 percent are confused about what to do during sex.

Some didn’t give their undivided attention to sex ed class because 42 percent didn’t know that a girl can get pregnant during her period (yes, it’s possible). Thirty-four percent didn’t know that wearing two condoms at the same time is not more effective than wearing one. Twenty percent didn’t know that a girl can still get pregnant if she’s on birth control. TL;DR: Always 👏 use 👏 protection.

Nerves are real — and completely normal! In our survey, guys admit to feeling worried or anxious... Seventy-three percent worry about the possibility of getting their partner pregnant and 77 percent say sex can be intimidating.

Partners are the greatest influence of guys’ decisions about sex… 78 percent say their partners are their greatest influence, 62 percent say their friends are, and 53 percent say it’s their parents.

Having candid, vulnerable conversations can make a difference. Fifty-three percent have had a conversation with a parent about preventing pregnancy, and 65 percent of those who’ve had a conversation say it was somewhat or very helpful to them. Further, those surveyed say they are generally more comfortable talking to their mom about relationships, but more comfortable talking to their dad about sex.